There’s a deeper sickness running through our culture, and it’s not just in the body.
It’s in the mind.
It’s in the lies we live with.
The truth we swallow.
The fake “I’m fine” we tell ourselves, and everyone else, day after day- lying to yourself is slowly killing us.
It might be the reason you feel stuck, anxious, or even physically sick.
I Lied to Myself, and My Body Paid the Price
When I got sick, really sick, diagnosed with an autoimmune disease, I wasn’t being honest with myself.
I hated my job.
I hated how I felt waking up each morning to do work that drained my soul.
But I told myself I was lucky to have a steady paycheck.
That it wasn’t that bad.
That I should just tough it out.
Here’s the truth. Your body knows when you’re lying.
It feels it.
It stores it.
The longer you ignore what’s real, the louder it whispers.
Until it screams.
In the form of inflammation, exhaustion, anxiety, or full-blown disease.
I’ve Lied to Myself More Than Once
I wish that was the only time I did it.
But it wasn’t.
There were two different times in my life when I knew, deep in my gut, that I was in the wrong job.
I felt it. I knew it.
But I stayed.
I stayed for safety.
I stayed because I convinced myself it was better to be uncomfortable than to face the unknown.
The idea of leaving?
It was terrifying.
There were no guarantees.
No certainty.
And so I let the fear keep me still.
I told myself I could tolerate it.
That it was temporary.
That it wasn’t that bad.
But I was lying.
And the longer I let that lie linger, the sicker I got.
What I know now is this:
You can always start over.
Even if it feels late.
Even if it feels scary.
The day I stopped pretending, the day I finally moved in the direction of what was true, everything began to shift.
Comfort Is a Cage: When You Stay Where You Don’t Belong
I’ve stayed in relationships I knew weren’t right for me.
Not because I didn’t know. I did.
I could feel it in my gut.
We weren’t aligned.
We weren’t growing.
And deep down, I knew we weren’t meant for each other.
But I stayed.
Because I was afraid.
Afraid of hurting them.
Afraid of being alone.
Afraid of the unknown.
We’ve all done this. We cling to things we’ve outgrown, just because they feel familiar.
Comfort can be the most dangerous trap because it doesn’t hurt loud enough to force change.
It just slowly drains the life out of you.
If that hit something in you, I wrote more about it here:
Living Without Passion: How Comfort Becomes the Silent Trap
But what happens when you keep doing that for years?
What happens when you keep pretending, every single day?
Self-Betrayal Will Break You Down
It’s not just toxins, processed food, or environmental stressors making us sick. Yes, those matter.
But for me, the deeper illness didn’t start with what I was eating.
It started in my mind.
When you betray your own values,
When you fake a smile at a job you resent,
When you avoid the conversation you know you need to have,
When you lie to yourself about what you want, who you are, and what you believe,
It catches up to you.
Every suppressed truth becomes another layer of tension in your chest.
Every postponed conversation becomes a knot in your stomach.
Every fake “yes” becomes a slow “no” to your health, your growth, and your life.
I’m not saying this because it sounds poetic.
I’m saying it because I lived it.
Because I had to crawl out of it.
This Isn’t Just Personal. It’s Proven.
There’s real data behind all of this.
One of the most respected long-term health studies found that people who suppress negative emotions are more than three times more likely to develop physical illness.
Pain, fatigue, inflammation, all of it.
That’s not self-help fluff.
That’s your nervous system breaking down under the weight of your silence.
Source:
Chapman, D. P., et al. (2004). Adverse childhood experiences and the risk of depressive disorders in adulthood.
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So no, I don’t expect sympathy.
I expect truth.
And if your body’s been screaming at you, maybe it’s not random.
Maybe it’s time to stop pretending.
Radical Honesty Is the Real Medicine
Forgive who you need to forgive.
Have the conversation you’ve been avoiding.
Tell the truth to someone you love, even if it shakes things up.
Tell the truth to yourself, especially when it’s ugly.
When I finally made those changes,
When I left the fire department,
When I faced my patterns,
When I started living in alignment,
My body began to heal.
That wasn’t coincidence.
That was connection.
My nervous system calmed.
My stress dropped.
Inflammation decreased.
Not just because I changed my food.
Because I changed my truth.
What Heals You Isn’t a Product. It’s the Truth.
Being nice isn’t the goal.
Being honest is.
If you’ve been stuck, anxious, or sick, ask yourself:
What have I been avoiding?
What have I been pretending not to know?
How have I been lying to myself?
Your healing might not start with another supplement.
It starts with a decision.
A real one.
To finally tell the truth.
Ready to Align Your Health with Your Truth?
This isn’t just about food or fitness.
It’s about your life.
And if you’re ready to stop pretending and start moving, I can help you find your way back to what’s real.
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